The Character of a leader: how to grow in being candid, authentic

Its takes courage living an authentic life.  But it gives confidence and allows for real character growth.  Without it one cannot lead from the heart.

In this short introductory video Dale Cilliers shares his wisdom on how to grow in being candid and leading authentically (


1 John 1:5-9

5  This is the message we have heard from him and proclaim to you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all.  6  If we say we have fellowship with him while we walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth. 7  But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin. 8  If we say we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us. 9  If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

Observation and refection questions

Context: The congregation to which John wrote (approximately AD 94) apparently went through some traumatic split when a group following some Gnostic deception departed from them.  Among other things, these heretics propagated the belief that sins you do in your body has no effect on your spirit, and therefore it is not possible for a believer to sin at all.

  1. Considering the context how do you understand verses 6 and 8?
  2. From this text, how do we “walk in the light”? (verse 7)
  3. Knowing we are fallible, how do we still “walk in the light” from this text?

Application and Prayer

Secrecy of personal flaws to pretense and shame; it diminishes our confidence and damages our reputation as leaders.  However, having the boldness to be absolutely transparent with close friends about our personal struggles removes our shame, increases our confidence as leaders and allows for God’s grace to overcome personal weaknesses.

Last week we encouraged transparency with a close friend regarding our personal weaknesses and habitual flaws we struggles with.

  1. Consider your habitual thoughts: your daydreams (hopes), regrets, temptations (desires), anxieties (fears) and anger? List the following thoughts and talk about it to your close Christian friends.
    1. What do you daydreaming about?
    2. What regrets do you ponder on?
    3. Which temptations are dangerous to you, and when?
    4. What are you anxious about?
    5. What are you angry about?
  2. Pray with your friend and ask God to cleanse your heart and conscience.
  3. Ask your friend to help you choose one scripture to memorize and mediate on in the week.
  4. Make a date for when you will talk so openly again.